5 June, 2012  |   6 Comments

Reason, Season or Life

You’ve heard that before, right?
People are in your life for
Season or

Lee, Eric, Jason, Helen Jane, Gunnison, CO
It’s an adage that gives me great comfort.

This friend, she’s a friend for this season, and when the season’s over, it’s just like Spring turning to Summer. Fall to winter. No biggie. Move on. That friend, just for a reason, this conference.
The end. No harm done, we move on to the next part of our lives.

And then social media comes in and mucks that all up.
It rolls on in and says, nope!


And if they aren’t for life,
they obviously HATE you.
And if they ARE for life,
we’re dragging everyone along with us forever.

Still Rollin'

I can’t help but think that all these people from my past might be a drag on my forward trajectory.
Pulling me back with past regrets,
pulling down the focus from my
forward motion,
these Lifers.

Hello, vendor from a past business relationship, eager to sell to me, time and time again, hello, high school can’t-remember-if-friend-or-enemy-or-probably-somewhere-in-between, hello, one guy from that one conference that one time seven years ago.

Also, none of these people are you.  It’s not about you.
(These are mere examples, plucked from the ether.)

Lifers, all of them.

So we have two options, pruning or continuing on.

I think pruning is the responsible decision.
Keep it focused,
keep it manageable,
keep it honest.

But I sure as hell don’t like being pruned. And I don’t suspect other people do either.  And since we’re still evolving — we still need to accept the fact that sometimes people don’t want to get our updates forever. Like any editing, it’s totally personal, but not personal at all.

Since I’m rarely responsible, you’ll see me making the choice to continue on, dragging my past along with me, trying to adapt. I’ll be trying my darndest to remain nimble, bringing along everyone I’ve ever known from my past.

And who knows?
In the end, I may find that they’re lifting me up.

Wildcat show choir.

6 thoughts on “Reason, Season or Life

  1. 1
    Marissa says:

    I love this. Really.

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    Anne says:

    Am loving your writing lately. I keep meaning to say that, and now I have.

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    Sarah Brown says:

    I love this. Social media/the innernette is ruining one of the best relationships, that of the casual social acquaintance. Embrace the casual social acquaintances in your life! But not too close! Foster them, leave them alone, check in now and then, don’t invite them to your birthday dinner party!

  4. 4
    jif says:

    Sometimes I forget how AWESOME our hair was back in the day. Big bangs and big perms – so AWESOME.

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    Missi says:

    Man – thank you! I find myself “quitting” social media once a year for a few months because it gets out of control. People know things about me and I know things about acquaintances when we shouldn’t!

    As an occasionally melancholy, somewhat introverted person, this tends to wreck my inner peace. Well, you’ve caught me on a clean streak. I’m happy to be virtually disconnected.

  6. 6

    This is really good. Really really good. You probably already knew that but I felt so compelled to say it that I clicked through from my reader to comment on a post from 2 months ago, which is probably freaking you out. I’m sorry.

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